Rewards versus Punishment

By: Dr. Noel Swanson..

Discipline. Many people view it as a punishment system but that doesn't have to be the case. Often times, a reward system can work wonders in establishing child discipline. Another thing you might have noticed when attempting to establish child discipline is how one technique doesn't work.

First of all it is important to remove the derogatory connotations attached to the word ‘discipline’. Many people associate punishment with discipline, which isn’t and shouldn’t be the case. More often than not, a reward system works wonders in establishing child discipline. Indeed, as parents, you should make sure that things don’t come to such a pass that punishment is required. Another thing that you need to know as parents is that children are individuals in their own right. No two kids are alike; they need to be treated individually. There is no such guarantee that the method that worked with one child will work with another, too. You have to be as inventive as your children to develop a rapport with them so that they listen to you, and they do what they think will please you.

You can’t afford to neglect child discipline; but punishment tactics should be avoided as far as possible; they don't work. Try a reward system instead. Rewards don’t have to be tangible; a nod of approval, a word of praise and a warm hug can work wonders. You can encourage positive children's behavior by positive reinforcement. It makes you and your child feel good. And, it saves time on the yelling.

Here are some parenting tips for establishing a reward system:

1. Both parents must sit down and formulate an action plan. Communication is the keyword here. Make a list of child behavior actions and rewards. For example, you can set a reward for cleaning up the bedroom without having to be reminded.

* Once you have clarity on behavior actions and rewards, you should explain the system to the children. You’ll be surprised that even very small children respond to rewards. It’s a good idea to actively engage the older children in this type of routine change; it will ensure better implementation and the system will run smoothly and many child behavior problems will be avoided. It will give them a sense of achievement and participation in the household decision making process.

* It is most important that you follow through and keep a record. Keeping track of a lot of activities can be hard to do. Use the chart to keep track of where each child stands. This is also a visual reinforcement.

Following these three steps will help you a great deal in putting up an effective and rewarding system in your home. By rewarding good child behavior, you set a positive foundation for self-esteem. It is the best way to accomplish child discipline tasks.

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Dr. Noel Swanson has a free newsletter on children's behavior problems and also writes frequently for Yes Parenting website.